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My parents decided to get divorced, jut as I started High School. It was really tough at the time, but it brought us all closer together, as we did not take each other for granted anymore. I genuinely feel like we are all happier this way.
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I think that it also depends on how old you are, as a child, when it does happen. As that plays a huge role in your understanding, and coping mechanism.
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I would rather go through a divorce, than live in years of an unhappy marriage. It really does affect the children too, when growing up in a hostile environment.
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My parents got divorced when I was in my early teens. It was better than waking up to screaming and fighting. It pretty much scared me of getting married for fear of being divorced. My mom worked herself to death to get over the feeling of being alone and me and my brothers and sisters had to always be there for her till she fully got herself back.
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My sister just got divorced. I take care of the kids sometimes when she has to work late. Her ex is busy as well so I get to keep the kids company. It's hard having to shuffle kids back and forth and looking for good babysitters.
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My parents got divorced when I was in my early teens. It was better than waking up to screaming and fighting. It pretty much scared me of getting married for fear of being divorced. My mom worked herself to death to get over the feeling of being alone and me and my brothers and sisters had to always be there for her till she fully got herself back.
My mom was the same way. She somehow lost a part of herself in the divorce. We all had to rally around her so she could gain back her confidence and move on.
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I thought we had an entire life to spend together. We explored remote nations and considered straw mats while reptiles slithered on the roof and the sea hurled and groaned outside. We sat dim looked at in crisis rooms at wicked hours, alternating holding our wiped out and crying newborn child who might not be ameliorated. We stood as an inseparable unit at the recently burrowed graves of guardians, sobbing and noiselessly holding each other.
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I have divorced parents and it was more of a relief. All the yelling and fighting isn't something I'd want any kid to wake up to. My folks had a really volatile relationship and they're better off without each other.
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My mom was way happier when she divorced my dad. He was too controlling. We could all breathe when my dad left. It sounds so bad but we were more relaxed and free when he was gone.
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Getting divorce was hard. I couldn't accept that I failed at making my marriage work. We were briefly married but there's still that hole inside of you. We tried to be friends after but we were better off moving on and not speaking.
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My mom was way happier when she divorced my dad. He was too controlling. We could all breathe when my dad left. It sounds so bad but we were more relaxed and free when he was gone.
True. We felt the same way. Everything had to go by our dad. He was such a control freak and my mom deserved someone better. She's in a better place in her life now without him.
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It's hard when you know you already grew apart and staying together isn't working anymore. You want to part ways while you still respect each other. We stayed friends for the kids and we continue to co parent.
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My parents got divorced, after growing up together and dating from the age of 16. As difficult as it was to go through, both parents relaxed a bit. As if they were going back to high school. Which, in turn, made us, all the more, happier.
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I remember being moved back and forth between them, growing up. It was extremely disruptive, and caused a lot of confusion. As hard as it is to not see one of your parents everyday, I think that being moved around so much can actually be more harmful when you are young.
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Divorce is hard especially for kids. It takes away the basic family unit they grew up in. Having their dad move away raised a lot of questions but my ex and I are in good terms. He tries to see the kids as much as he can and we co parent. We try to make the kids feel that we are still a family even if we live separately.
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Divorce is very hard to overcome. As a mother, I think it is much harder for my kids. They are constantly asking why we can't live together with their dad. Little by little am trying to make them understand our situation and I am doing my best not to make them feel less of a person simply because they are from a broken family. Life goes on anyway...
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Being divorced with my child's father was very hard. It is even harder everytime my son asked me where his dad is. But I find it better because my son doesn't have to grow up with his parents shouting at each other in front of him. Time will past. And when my son grows up, I know he will understand why his father and I needed to end up this way.
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Divorce is hard to overcome. But you must accept the distance that now exists between the two of you. They no longer belong to you. Your marriage no longer belongs to you. You must forgive them for being the person that they are. You must forgive yourself if you think you have done mistakes too. Acceptance over things will help you survive divorce.
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Divorce is a sensitive and serious and issue. It may be hard to overcome but if we will show love to the person who is suffering from divorce they can easily survive the pain of being divorced.
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I was too young to understand what was happening when my parents got divorced, and it became very confusing when my mom or dad was in a different house all the time. It made me feel like the one didn't love me and did not want to be my parent. Parents need to make sure that their children understand what is going on, regardless of how young we are, or how much it hurts them. Otherwise it just hurts us, children in the long run.
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