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Surviving as "The Other".

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It feels dreadful to be the"Odd One Out", the Other.
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It’s quite exhausting being an Other because you have to create and maintain your own universe. Whereas normal people have everybody else (other normal people) to do this for them.
2 y
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I only started feeling myself as a simple being, rather than just"The Other", once I got to University. I think that it is like that for most of us. As School and High School has all of these expectations, boundaries, and is based within a hierarchy system. Where you are only really accepted if you achieve, what they define to be important, and are automatically defined as a"nobody", if you do not reach this standard. Or if you are not interested in what they claim to be"interesting" and"worthy". Whereas in University, your identity, and the freedom to express it, is easier, and without judgment. As there is no specific criteria, and you are there to study what interests you, and what you deem to be important. Consequently, you will meet people that you can relate to, more than your peers at School, that have similar interests, and so forth. It is simply easier to live within a more natural state of being.
2 y
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"There is something inherently valuable about being a misfit. It' not to say that everyone who has artistic talent was a social outcast, but there is definitely a value for identifying yourself differently and being proud that you are different."
2 y
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I think that the feeling of"Otherness" stems from our childhood. From being the"Black Sheep of the Family". Which is wrong, and can lead to extreme consequences, for the individual. Parents, and family members, need to be more kind and understanding towards those whom are different from, what is supposed to be the"family norm". It will raise our self-esteem, and self-worth, and acceptance. Knowing that we are different, but that it is okay to be different, and that we do not have to change, or"be better", to win the love and approval of others.
2 y
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Could you not just try and compensate to not feel like you are being left out? I am not being rude, I have just never been the"Other" so I don't understand it?
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