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Physical discipline of kids

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Pain is a memory that works well with younger humans. As long as you are not killing them and leaving marks a little spank here and there can go a long way.
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“There aren’t two sides. There is a preponderance of fact, and there are people who find it inconvenient to accept those facts,” Belkin wrote in a 2012 column.
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Violence begets violence period. You can't beat your kids out of frustration to their behavior and expect positive outcomes. You are only teaching your child to fear you. There are other methods to curve negative behaviors besides beating a child.
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“There aren’t two sides. There is a preponderance of fact, and there are people who find it inconvenient to accept those facts,” Belkin wrote in a 2012 column.
I know the science would believe this but is there any evidence that in certain situations it could be good or it is not good across the board? Was this studied in healthy normal children and also children will an array of mental or neurological disorders?
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Violence begets violence period. You can't beat your kids out of frustration to their behavior and expect positive outcomes. You are only teaching your child to fear you. There are other methods to curve negative behaviors besides beating a child.
Then why do some kids who come from completely non violent households turn out to be serial killers. To be honest killers are usually from good backgrounds. I don't know just throwing an idea off the wall. I believe it has its place and from time to time can be effective. Every other animals has an aggressive way of dealing with their young getting out of line.
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I have given my kids a little spank before but it had to be something life or death. You can keep them in line by taking away things and not giving them things. There are so many ways to discipline kids now.
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Spanking demonstrates that it’s all right for people to hit people, and especially for big people to hit little people, and stronger people to hit weaker people. Children learn that when you have a problem you solve it with a good swat. A child whose behavior is controlled by spanking is likely to carry on this mode of interaction into other relationships with siblings and peers, and eventually a spouse and offspring.
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VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL “HITTING”
Physical hitting is not the only way to cross the line into abuse. Everything we say about physical punishment pertains to emotional/verbal punishment as well. Tongue-lashing and name-calling tirades can actually harm a child more psychologically.
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Happy I don't have kids!
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I think that this decision should be left up to the parents. This has to be lightly done or with a newspaper or something. Hitting kids and leaving marks and making them scream is just out of the question. Lightly tapping to express that this is really bad should be enough.
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We all know we came from a beat your behind generation. I think for the most part it worked. I do agree that time and science has given us other ways to discipline but we should not abandon it altogether.
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I have given my kids a little spank before but it had to be something life or death. You can keep them in line by taking away things and not giving them things. There are so many ways to discipline kids now.
That is what I am saying. One here or there is not going to develop issues for the child. Constantly knocking their head off now that is what causing damage.
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I would agree that this method is a little outdated. With what we know about human behavior and the human mind we must stop doing things that have no positive results behind them. For all of you who say it works you should really look into the research.
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I could not imagine putting my hands on my baby girls. They get no my last nerves some days but I understand that they are kids and they are going to make mistakes over and over again.
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We need to focus more on the discipline part and not the physical. I think any plane that you stick to when it comes to punishing kids will work. If you are consistent with the beatings then of course you are going to get results but you can get those same results without the beatings and that is the point.
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Louisiana’s attorney general and its state treasurer have condemned the arrest of 30-year-old Schaquana Spears — who was charged with child cruelty Monday after she beat three of her kids with an electrical cord because they broke into a neighbor’s home — and praised her for her tough parenting tactics.
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Then why do some kids who come from completely non violent households turn out to be serial killers. To be honest killers are usually from good backgrounds. I don't know just throwing an idea off the wall. I believe it has its place and from time to time can be effective. Every other animals has an aggressive way of dealing with their young getting out of line.
Are you kidding me? SO that's your argument for beating kids? Serial killers? There are different forms of abuse. Trauma suffered during childhood can lead to a number of personality defects in adulthood. Good parenting leads to a open dialogue with your child explaining what they have done wrong so its not repeated. Beating just associates pain with the negative behavior.
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Spanking demonstrates that it’s all right for people to hit people, and especially for big people to hit little people, and stronger people to hit weaker people. Children learn that when you have a problem you solve it with a good swat. A child whose behavior is controlled by spanking is likely to carry on this mode of interaction into other relationships with siblings and peers, and eventually a spouse and offspring.
Exactly, so what your teaching your child is to expect someone they love to hurt them.
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Exactly, so what your teaching your child is to expect someone they love to hurt them.
Well to a certain degree. I think we are on the same page about this discussion overall.
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I know the science would believe this but is there any evidence that in certain situations it could be good or it is not good across the board? Was this studied in healthy normal children and also children will an array of mental or neurological disorders?
A study published last year in Child Abuse and Neglect revealed an intergenerational cycle of violence in homes where physical punishment was used. Researchers interviewed parents and children age 3 to 7 from more than 100 families. Children who were physically punished were more likely to endorse hitting as a means of resolving their conflicts with peers and siblings. Parents who had experienced frequent physical punishment during their childhood were more likely to believe it was acceptable, and they frequently spanked their children. Their children, in turn, often believed spanking was an appropriate disciplinary method.
The negative effects of physical punishment may not become apparent for some time, Gershoff says. “A child doesn’t get spanked and then run out and rob a store,” she says. “There are indirect changes in how the child thinks about things and feels about things.”
As in many areas of science, some researchers disagree about the validity of the studies on physical punishment. Robert Larzelere, PhD, an Oklahoma State University professor who studies parental discipline, was a member of the APA task force who issued his own minority report because he disagreed with the scientific basis of the task force recommendations. While he agrees that parents should reduce their use of physical punishment, he says most of the cited studies are correlational and don’t show a causal link between physical punishment and long-term negative effects for children.
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