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I need help. I have a strange, deep, nonsexual connection to a friend I recently met. I’m trying to stop these feelings, but it’s so hard because I love him. It’s such a weird, unexplainable feeling I have for him I know that sounds gay, but I’m not gay. It’s making me so confused. Here’s my story:
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I need help. I have a strange, deep, nonsexual connection to a friend I recently met. I’m trying to stop these feelings, but it’s so hard because I love him. It’s such a weird, unexplainable feeling I have for him I know that sounds gay, but I’m not gay. It’s making me so confused. Here’s my story:
I suggest talking to him about it. Who knows he may feel the same way.
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Both. You have your people you let get very close and some you keep at a distance. They all play a major role in your life.
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its good to have a few close friends, but I also like to have distance from my 3 best bros from time to time. That's where the casual friends come in to play.
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Not everyone we meet is going to want to hang out with us. And definitely not everyone we hang out with is going to become a closer friend. We're just not compatible with most people in terms of interests, values, what they're looking for in a friendship, availability, and a dozen other things.
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A casual relationship is a kind of relationship where there are no clear rules or long term commitments towards the relationship.
Both the people involved in the relationship are just in it for the moment, until something or someone better comes along.
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That's me :)
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I keep a few close friends.
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I have enemies
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This all isn’t to say that meaningful relationships with Japanese people is impossible. On the contrary, I’ve had Japanese friends run to my aid in times of need when other Western friends seemed mysteriously absent. On the one hand, close friendships with Japanese people are extremely rewarding and almost always last a lifetime, but on the other hand, getting to that point can quite frankly be a pain in the ass.
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Both. You have your people you let get very close and some you keep at a distance. They all play a major role in your life.
I also think a very good mixture of both is needed. You need people who you know have your back no matter what. You really only need one person like that. Everyone else you can keep at a distance but still be friends in a way.
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I read online that there is a rare type of friendship that can be very intense and filled with deep love, but can anyone give advice on how to handle it? I could REALLY use some help.
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When we think of each other, we know that the other has their own life and challenges. We both want the other to live a happy and full life, and we also know that while we value each other and often benefit from each other's company, we are not the only ones who contribute friendship in their lives. (If I am, then I help them learn how to create more and stronger friendships.)
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