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Long-distance relationships are not worth it

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The long distance relationship – or LDR – is a contentious issue in the dating world. People seem to be divided as to whether they are worth investing in. On one hand, the LDR can be like setting yourself up for frustration, pain and heartache. Why would you knowingly enter into a relationship that may be doomed from the start? Expensive airfares, long absences, painful video-chats and easily misinterpreted text messages – why bother? On the other hand, if there is a strong level of compatibility and you really believe in the potential of your union, surely the distance becomes irrelevant? If you’re reading this you’re probably either in an LDR or considering one, and wondering if it could work
. https://www.eharmony.com.au/dating-advice/dating/can-long-distance-relationships-work#.W7DefPl9jIU
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Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken. Nobody says it is going to be easy — the extra distance makes many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times.
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Nobody says it is going to be easy — the extra distance makes many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest, being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship.
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First and foremost, this absolutely cannot be generalized. It totally depends upon the people involved in the Long Distance Relationship. I think I am well qualified to answer this question, since I was in a 4.5 years long distance relationship, and now we are finally together and very happy!
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Long distance relationships can work provided both parties put in genuine efforts to commit
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Long distance relationships are tough, it’s an established fact. But that doesn’t mean they can’t be happy.
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When a couple decides to step into an LDR, not only they should have insurmountable love for each other, but being practical and deciding when to “end” the long distance and actually move in together. A lack of future insight often leads partners to give up on the relationship.
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It makes it easier when you know that the distance is temporary. It gives you a timeline to look forward to, no matter how long it may be.
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Long distance relationships are tough, it’s an established fact. But that doesn’t mean they can’t be happy.
Long distance relationships may be tough but they have their own pleasant surprises too
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It sounds sweet and romantic when you say stuff like 'Don't worry, of course we'll make it work.' but it isn't in the long run when you really want to see them and you can't and then decide you've had enough and bitterly break up. You're lying, to your partner, as well as to yourself.
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Speaking from personal experience, I would be lying if I say that it is a piece of cake, because it's not. Absolutely not. It is a lot of hard work and determination and the only thing which kept us going was the love we had for each other.
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Love isn't about being inseparable, it's being separated and still nothing changes. According to me the key is communication and trust.
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Since its long distance, you'll have to do a lot of talking. Well it isn't that boring. Deep conversations with the right people are priceless. Seriously, nothing compares to a beautiful conversation with a beautiful mind.I personally have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations and the ability to talk without any regret or fear for hours together discussing about different dimensions of life. This might help. Master the art of talking. One must know when to talk, what to talk and how to talk.
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Several studies have shown that a positive correlation exists between time spent together and relationship satisfaction. But, Does time spent together cause a high relationship satisfaction? Unclear. Because, the reverse may be true too: High relationship satisfaction causes increased time spent together.
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In a long distance relationship you miss out on a lot of things. Your partner misses out on a lot of your big moments and vice versa
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Thank goodness for technology!!!! Video calls and Instant Messaging does make it slightly easier/better.
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