Parenting & Childcare

Inappropriate Gift Given to Your Child

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If you think that picking up a Christmas toy for your kids is going to be a doddle, you might want to be careful.

Turns out toy manufacturers are up to all kinds of filth. You don't want any of these finding their way into your child's stocking...

http://www.comedycentral.co.uk/fails/articles/10-hugely-inappropriate-kids-toys-christmas-shopping-gifts
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My dad's girlfriend (they never last long… they hit menopause and he drops them like a hot potato) gave my daughter a bike for her birthday. Her first bike…which should have been a milestone gift given or approved by her parents. But nope! Not only did she do it without my permission but she gave her her 16 year old daughter's old used bike that had been in their garage for 10 years. It literally fell apart and was too big for her not to mention my daughter has special needs and STILL, two years later, lacks the coordination, strength, and core stability to actually ride it. Of course, I'm the one seeing how discouraged she is.

Then 2 months later she gives her a sled for Christmas. Again, a used sled with a massive crack down the middle. It was clearly several years old and probably cost $8 at Walmart. Did I mention I have disabilities too and am completely incapable of dragging the sled up a hill over and over? So there's another gift she got excited for but could never be used.

And then there was the dresses from her biological aunt who's no longer in the picture. Gave a 2 year old black and hot pink skintight dresses with glitter that read"spoiled brat" and"hot bunz" across the chest. Wtf???
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When my daughter turned two years old, for her birthday my father gave her a toy car which could “drive” along the road using a thrust mechanism similar to that of a toy water rocket which required hand pumping. This gift was wrong on many levels, the least of which was that my daughter was still somewhat into things like baby dolls and stuffed animals at the time. More importantly was the fact that the mechanism of the toy was more appropriate for an older child (maybe around 5) with more developed motor skills. But the worst part was the fact that my daughter was born with partial cerebral palsy which restricted the precise movement of one of her hands, and of which my dad was well aware of this disability. She could not have used this toy even if she was old enough to otherwise do so, and somehow my dad thought this would be a great gift for her to have.

Some years later, when my eldest son was around eight years old my father followed up this car thing by giving my son a cigarette lighter following a weekend visit with “Grandpa”. I am not talking about something with personal or collectible significance like, say, a World War II-era Zippo belonging to my grandfather. That would have made some sense. It was instead a simple, Bic-type disposable lighter full of both fuel and flint. Given that no one in my household is (or ever was) a smoker, to say nothing of the inherent safety issue, this struck me as a very unusual thing to give an 8 year old boy.
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A family next door gave my children NIV Bibles.

The Bible itself does not bother me, nor does Christianity. As a matter of fact, we’re homeschooling, so we’ll be using those Bibles as textbooks for a Religions of the World course we’re taking this year.

What did bother me is that these individuals know we’re not Christian. My family practices no religion or belief system/doctrine, while they are very strictly Christian. Their children have said things to my children that bother me very much, like implying they’re going to hell, asking them about how they want to have sex with their husbands and wives, and blessing the number of children they plan to have (thoughts of this at 8 and 9 years old).
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When my daughter turned two years old, for her birthday my father gave her a toy car which could “drive” along the road using a thrust mechanism similar to that of a toy water rocket which required hand pumping. This gift was wrong on many levels, the least of which was that my daughter was still somewhat into things like baby dolls and stuffed animals at the time. More importantly was the fact that the mechanism of the toy was more appropriate for an older child (maybe around 5) with more developed motor skills. But the worst part was the fact that my daughter was born with partial cerebral palsy which restricted the precise movement of one of her hands, and of which my dad was well aware of this disability. She could not have used this toy even if she was old enough to otherwise do so, and somehow my dad thought this would be a great gift for her to have.

Some years later, when my eldest son was around eight years old my father followed up this car thing by giving my son a cigarette lighter following a weekend visit with “Grandpa”. I am not talking about something with personal or collectible significance like, say, a World War II-era Zippo belonging to my grandfather. That would have made some sense. It was instead a simple, Bic-type disposable lighter full of both fuel and flint. Given that no one in my household is (or ever was) a smoker, to say nothing of the inherent safety issue, this struck me as a very unusual thing to give an 8 year old boy.
It is inappropriate.
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Some relatives were visiting and bought me a birthday present. Having known about my passion for shooting, shooting games and shooting toys growing up, they bought me a skeet shooting toy.

It was basically a little orange toaster that launched a couple discs about 5 feet into the air. When you pointed the provided infrared laser ‘gun’ at the discs, they would pop into two halves indicating a hit.

It would have been an okay present… had I been turning 8 instead of 18.
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A family next door gave my children NIV Bibles.

The Bible itself does not bother me, nor does Christianity. As a matter of fact, we’re homeschooling, so we’ll be using those Bibles as textbooks for a Religions of the World course we’re taking this year.

What did bother me is that these individuals know we’re not Christian. My family practices no religion or belief system/doctrine, while they are very strictly Christian. Their children have said things to my children that bother me very much, like implying they’re going to hell, asking them about how they want to have sex with their husbands and wives, and blessing the number of children they plan to have (thoughts of this at 8 and 9 years old).
Wow, that sucks!
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Revenge Gifting is really a thing! I have not been on the receiving end, however I was working for Radio Shack one Xmas season and assisted a giver. A lady ‘of a certain age’ came into the store with blood in her eye, and I asked politely if I could help her. Her response was “I WANT THE 4 LOUDEST TOYS IN THE STORE!” (her tone would have done a Marine DI proud) and my response was to ask calmly “ Let me guess, Out of town grandchildren?”. She looked at me for a second, then growled “Damm straight”. I showed her exactly what she wanted, she bought them+4 sets of batteries and left the store beaming at me and everyone else.
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Some relatives were visiting and bought me a birthday present. Having known about my passion for shooting, shooting games and shooting toys growing up, they bought me a skeet shooting toy.

It was basically a little orange toaster that launched a couple discs about 5 feet into the air. When you pointed the provided infrared laser ‘gun’ at the discs, they would pop into two halves indicating a hit.

It would have been an okay present… had I been turning 8 instead of 18.
Haha! Maybe they forgot how old you were?
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Several times. Mostly it was the stereotypical “who in their right mind gives a toddler a drum!?” or other version “loud toy is LOUD please don’t give this to my kids!!!!” It bothered me for all of 5 minutes, then I shrugged and moved on.
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Revenge Gifting is really a thing! I have not been on the receiving end, however I was working for Radio Shack one Xmas season and assisted a giver. A lady ‘of a certain age’ came into the store with blood in her eye, and I asked politely if I could help her. Her response was “I WANT THE 4 LOUDEST TOYS IN THE STORE!” (her tone would have done a Marine DI proud) and my response was to ask calmly “ Let me guess, Out of town grandchildren?”. She looked at me for a second, then growled “Damm straight”. I showed her exactly what she wanted, she bought them+4 sets of batteries and left the store beaming at me and everyone else.
I love an old person with a nasty sense of humor! Hahaha
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This was about a dozen years ago, so this is not the exact model we owned. But, this is basically the one.

This thing is not a simple talking plushy with buttons and speakers. It possesses its own agency, and it’s creepy. It actually went out of its way to bother and disturb us. It’s sold on the market as a Fisher-Price Laugh and Learn Smart Stages Puppy, but we called it Possessed Puppy.
6 mths
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Several times. Mostly it was the stereotypical “who in their right mind gives a toddler a drum!?” or other version “loud toy is LOUD please don’t give this to my kids!!!!” It bothered me for all of 5 minutes, then I shrugged and moved on.
It's like 'ol grandma over there!
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Earlier this year, my MIL brought gifts for her grand kids for some obscure holiday. She happily pulled out gifts for my niece (10) and nephew (7) - chocolates and toys. My daughter (10) was given a small set of doll accessories.

For my son (12), my MIL pulled out...an empty, dirty, used Star Wars-themed popcorn box from the movie theater and a small Star Wars-themed box of Kleenex.

To his credit, my son did his best to hide his disappointment. He thanked his grandmother, but it was a difficult ride home to be sure.
6 mths
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Earlier this year, my MIL brought gifts for her grand kids for some obscure holiday. She happily pulled out gifts for my niece (10) and nephew (7) - chocolates and toys. My daughter (10) was given a small set of doll accessories.

For my son (12), my MIL pulled out...an empty, dirty, used Star Wars-themed popcorn box from the movie theater and a small Star Wars-themed box of Kleenex.

To his credit, my son did his best to hide his disappointment. He thanked his grandmother, but it was a difficult ride home to be sure.
I am sure your MIL didn't mean to disappoint the kids. Maybe something happened?
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My grandmother once bought my little brother a book by Pam Ayres called ‘the last hedgehog’.

While in her defence it looks a bit cartoonish and friendly from the outside, the book is basically a poem. She loves Pam Ayres but 10 year old Zac, not so much. And the content of the poem you ask? Basically details the horrific deaths of a hedgehogs family and friends until they are the last hedgehog.
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Some friends of my parents gave my girls a book about dinosaurs when they were small. What a nice gift, I thought. We'll read it for bedtime stories tonight.

When we started reading it, though, it became apparent that it was really a fundamentalist apology for a new earth creation story. The earth was 5000 years old, dinosaurs were wiped out by the flood, because they were “disobedient”, and didn't make it onto the ark, humans coexisted along with the dinosaurs before the flood. And the “proof” that it offered . . . well, the less said the better.

That night, my girls got a rare treat. They got to choose a second bedtime story, which I read while that book was smuggled out of the house and into the trash.
6 mths