Hitting Rock Bottom and Finding an Online Support Group
When life decides to test you, it doesn’t do it in stages or ease into it for your convenience. Rather, it goes all out. I hit rock bottom about two years ago, and it was devastating in every way imaginable. Mentally, emotionally, financially and spiritually, I was completely broken and I had no clue how to start gluing together the shattered pieces of my life.
My problems came all of a sudden, with no warning whatsoever, catching me totally off-guard. Before that, everything had been fine and dandy. I had an amazing husband, a stable job, a lovely apartment, and the support of countless friends and family members. But things went downhill so quickly, I was left reeling. My husband announced that he’d been having an affair with a colleague and was leaving me for the ‘other woman’, which distressed me to the extent that I lost my job. After a bit of empty sympathy, my friends and family began leaving me behind as they moved on, caught up in their lives.
I had to sell my beloved apartment and the car my parents had gifted me for my wedding, because I could no longer afford to keep them. Soon I was living in a cheap hostel room selling newspapers and working at a local McDonald’s to put food in my stomach and clothes on my back. It was dull, monotonous existence and I was existing more than I was living.
It was by a stroke of luck that I met a former colleague of mine during one of my shifts. She had stepped in for a much-needed latte before heading to work, and was shocked to come across me operating the coffee machine. She naturally asked questions, and I was so tired of life and all the pain of the past few months that I just spilled everything.
Surprisingly, she was not just sympathetic, but actually helpful. She told me about her sister who had gone through a similar downward spiral as I had. Luckily, the young woman in question had been able to turn her life around when she joined an online support group. There, she had been able to connect with facing similar and, sometimes, even worse situations as herself. Simply being able to talk about her problems and release all her bottled up emotions had helped her make progress.
Finishing her story, my ex-colleague advised me to take the same step. I hadn’t thought of this option before, believing all doors to be closed, but since I was desperate to change my life for the better, I was willing to roll with it.
I went online and searched for support groups for troubled individuals. To my surprise, I found several platforms that provided emotional and mental support for people leading troubled lives. I joined a few just to see how they operated and how they helped the people out.
It turned out to be the best decision in my life. Sometimes, all you need is a fresh perspective and someone to guide you. I found many people who, like me, had lost everything they held dear in life and were now drifting along aimlessly and without purpose. Talking to them gave me a measure of comfort and relief, knowing that I wasn’t alone and that there were people who understood.
Slowly, I began to bring my life back on the right track. The people on my support had some pretty amazing ideas about what I could do. Someone suggested I should take up some courses and study further. Another advised me to start going out and meeting people, enjoying fun, casual evenings without any pressure.
It began to work out eventually. Today, I’m back at the point where life left me stranded—well, almost. I have a job now, nothing too fancy, but steady, safe, and the pay’s good, so you won’t hear me complaining. I recently moved into a tiny apartment with a colleague—again, nothing fancy, but it’s way better than living in a hostel. Still haven’t met Mr. Right, but I remain hopeful.
If you’re undergoing the same or similar troubles as mine, I strongly suggest you join a support group online. Believe me, just knowing you are not alone can make a huge difference in life. I recommend you all to give Gather Online - WeGather a try. This is an online platform for people with similar interests, where you can interact with others who think and feel the same way as you. Gather Online is seriously a great support forum, and I’m truly glad that I stumbled upon it during one of my random Google searches!