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Why we love, why we cheat

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Many cheaters claim to truly love the very partner they have wronged and usually we doubt their sincerity. After all, loving someone means maintaining a certain level of trust, honor and commitment, right?

Well, biological anthropologist Helen Fisher says that having an affair isn't as black and white as we'd like to believe.

Fisher conducted an experiment with a team of scientists where they scanned the brains of people who were"in love." They would show subjects a neutral photo first, followed by a photo of someone that he/she loved in order to record which region of the brain became active.

The results? The part of the brain responsible for governing"the reward system" would become active when a person looked at a photo of their lover. This is the same region that becomes active from things like cocaine or having an orgasm. https://www.yourtango.com/2015272080/scientific-reason-people-cheat-on-those-they-love
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More than 90% of Americans believe infidelity is unacceptable, yet 30-40% of people engage in it. Infidelity is associated with adverse outcomes such as depression, domestic violence, divorce, even homicide. Considering these negative effects, why do people cheat? And is the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” true?
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Why do people cheat on their partners?
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Simple, they are either very very unhappy in their marriage, very selfish or narcissistic who think they are above everyone else. There was a study that said that people who cheat tend to have lower IQs
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It’s very possible to cheat on someone you love if you feel like the one you love has hurt or betrayed you in some way. Cheating doesn’t happen out of the blue. Usually there is some underlying problem or unresolved issue which doesn’t go away, and the only way for this person to get relief is by looking outside the relationship.
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You cannot prevent someone from cheating on you, and often, you don't know why they cheated
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Truly loving someone can't be subject of cheating any time. True relationship has no place for cheating. If it happens, this happened only because there was big crack in between and else filled up that part
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It’s very possible to cheat on someone you love if you feel like the one you love has hurt or betrayed you in some way. Cheating doesn’t happen out of the blue. Usually there is some underlying problem or unresolved issue which doesn’t go away, and the only way for this person to get relief is by looking outside the relationship.
Usually it happens with people who don’t have the ability to talk things through like adults in a mature relationship because they never learned how to do it. It could also be a person who self-sabotages based on their personal fears. A tiny incident could set things off, and before you know it doubt sets in. Anytime something good happens it gets taken away or is destroyed. This then becomes a reoccurring self-fulfilling prophesy, and sadly the story of their life if they don’t recognize it and nip it in the bud.
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The main reason is that an opportunity is extended when the partner can find time to enter into a short relationship.
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The benefits what they want are needed
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At the end of the day, we are all just people, with emotions, and hearts and all that stuff. We all deserve to be treated nicely but there are some morally wrong people in our society and we can all be a bit moody and miserable with one another at times. But the whole idea of cheating on someone. It’s just a test. Can you risk temptation? Or should there even be any temptation. If you truly love someone there would be no temptation.
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This obviously varies but I feel good saying that the majority of people that cheat are either very bored and looking for an adrenaline rush in the relationship
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