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Should We Play It Cool When We Like Someone?

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One of the paradoxes of the dating game is that we know that by coming across as enthusiastic at an early stage – if we ring them the next day, if we are open about how attractive we find them, if we suggest meeting them again very soon – we are putting ourselves at a high risk of disgusting the very person we would so like to get to know better. It is in order to counter this risk that, early on in our dating lives we are taught by well-meaning friends to adopt a facade of indifference. We become experts at deliberately not phoning or sending messages, at treating our dates in a carefully off-hand manner and in subtly pretending we don’t much care if we never cross their paths again – while privately pining and longing. We are told that the only way to get them to care about us is to pretend not to care for them. And, in the process, we waste a lot of time, we may lose them altogether and we have to suffer the indignity of denying that we feel a desire that should never have been associated with shame in the first place.https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/should-we-play-it-cool-when-we-like-someone/
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Playing it cool can put you in a situation that you actually don't like. So better express your love rather than suppressing it. Life is short so say what you want, do what you like and love as hard as you can before it's too late.
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Have you played it cool with someone you like? What happened?
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I play it so cool that I disappear from the person's life which is sad.
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I play it so cool that I disappear from the person's life which is sad.
Ahahahaha... that hurts...
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You definitely should show some level of interest without being weird or clingy...
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You definitely should show some level of interest without being weird or clingy...
I think being labelled weird or clingy is more the choice of the other person. If he is interested in you, then you can do almost anything and not appear weird.
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If a girl I'm dating is acting distant and I sense she's putting in minimum effort and perhaps losing interest, then I'll usually just break it off with her. Trust me, you don't want to get involved with chasing people, trying to find out why they're acting the way they are and trying to 'do something' to get them to like you.
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Sometime I do think The School of Life is secretly spying on me. How did you know that I needed this?
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Sometime I do think The School of Life is secretly spying on me. How did you know that I needed this?
Right here with you.
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No matter how cool I play it, global warming is closer than ever. 😂
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